How to Stop Being Self-Conscious and Be Comfortable in Public
What would you call a turtle who remained hidden in his shell all his life, missing out on every opportunity to explore the vast ocean? If you don’t overcome self-consciousness, you’re missing out on enjoying this one short life.
“I really hate being self-conscious and being conscious of being self-conscious.” - Natalie Portman
Harness Your Critical Voice
The inner voice in a self-conscious person is harsh and loud. Only you can tame your inner voice. Learn to appreciate yourself without being overly critical.
“Be Yourself -- not your idea of what you think somebody else’s idea of you should be.” - Henry David Thoreau
Take time to introspect and understand who you are. We’re all on a learning curve, so know your strengths and weaknesses.
“The past is to prove that no one is perfect and the future is to prove that everyone can change.” - Unknown
Remember No One is Perfect
Everyone has their share of setbacks, so when you’re nervous, remember you’re not alone. Face your greatest fears one at a time.
“You are allowed to be both a masterpiece and a work in progress, simultaneously.” - Unknown
Let Go of Past Failures
Memories of previous embarrassing moments can be major stumbling blocks. Learn from your failures and use it to fuel your success.
“Be not afraid of growing slowly, be afraid only of standing still.” - Chinese Proverb
Replay Exhilarating Moments
When you need to speak or do something challenging publically, replaying some of the most exhilarating moments in your life will boost your confidence level.
“I can accept failure, everyone fails at something. But, I can’t accept not trying.” - Michael Jordan
Be Proud of Showing Up
It takes a lot of courage to put yourself out there. So, applaud yourself for showing up and trying. It’s a zillion times more commendable that those standing watching on the sidelines.
“Do not allow your heart to take pleasure with the praises of the people, nor be saddened by their condemnation.” - Imam Ghazali RA
People’s Opinions Don’t Define You
It doesn’t matter what people think, feel or say. People will always have negative opinions, thoughts and words that can hurt us. It’s up to us to brush it aside and soldier on.
“Giving up on your goal because of one setback is like slashing your other three tires because you had a flat.” - Unknown
Shift Your Focus
The more you allow your mind to entertain doubts and fears, the more petrified you’re going to get. Stop focussing on yourself and try helping or encouraging someone else.
“Practice like you’ve never won, perform like you’ve never lost” - Unknown
Prepare and Practice
The more time we devote to studying, preparation and practice, the less self-conscious we’ll feel in a certain situation.
“Life is a matter of choices, and every choice you make makes you” - John C. Maxwell
Confidence is a Choice
Turning self-consciousness into self-confidence is a choice. A choice we all have to make on a daily basis. Choose to not live in fear and doubt, but faith and boldness.
“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.” - Winston Churchill